Self Care Evening Routine~
I think we can all agree that self care is everywhere. Whether its big companies using the term to sell a new mattress or bath soak they've invented or mental health accounts like me, everyone is talking about self care.
With the lockdowns and more people focusing time on themselves, self care has become the buzzword of 2020-2021.
But while self care is being pushed at us left, right and centre, no one actually talks about how to practice real self care for actual results.
And I'm talking change your life and wellbeing results.
Temporary self care vs. self care habits
To really get into this topic, we need to discuss the difference between temporary self care and creating actual self care habits.
You see, practising self care like going for a walk once a month when your overwhelmed with stress is all well and good except it doesn't really benefit your mental health in the long run. It's a temporary fix that maybe lasts a couple of days at max before the stress seeps back in.
Creating self care habits is about breaking that cycle of stress - small fix - stress. It's about creating a healthy routine that fits around your daily life, full of small activities that make you feel good.
Creating these self care routines is going to look very different from person to person. We all have very different lives, priorities and schedules.
So, were going to start with what is usually the most 'available' part of the day for people and were going to create a self care night routine that suits you.
Creating your self care evening routine
Lets break down the steps to creating a self care routine. Remember, its better add things to your routine overtime rather than overwhelming yourself at the beginning.
Identifying your self care habits
So, lets start at the beginning by identifying self care habits that you want as part of your evening routine.
When we think of evening, for many of us were thinking of finishing work, cooking a meal and winding down. So, with that in mind, lets identify some self care habits that suit you.
Think of habits that you can realistically fit into your everyday life. For example, if you've never taken up running before, don't try to run for an hour as part of your routine. Instead, set that as a goal and start off by making time for a 15 minute walk after work.
For me, the three main habits I have as part of my self care evening routine are spending time with my family, answering some journal prompts and reading for at least 15 minutes before bed. These are my main three and to be honest I don't always stick to them. For example, if I know I'm going out or staying at someones house that night I'll do these three things throughout the day instead.
So, take a moment to think of three main habits you want to start with. I have a post here with 50 self care ideas to give you a bit of inspiration.
Making the time
Time, or should I say lack of time, is what stops most people practising self care and making real, positive life changes.
And that is a valid reason. We all have very busy, hectic lives with not much room for self care.
But the thing to remember is that you don't have to spend hours on your daily self care. Dedicate half an hour or 15 minutes. You deserve to have some time for yourself.
So find a little part of your schedule and carve our some time for yourself.
Sticking to the routine
Arguably, this the the hardest and most important part of your self care routine. Like i mentioned above, it's not always realistic to stick to your routine all the time. Things come up, we all have lives that change.
But it is important to still try and fit your three main habits in at other points in the day. This routine is about maintaining good mental well-being and a big part of that is preventing stress through healthy habits.
You may have heard this before but it takes 30 days to start a habit and on average 66 days for it to become automatic.
With that knowledge, I recommend trying this routine for 30 days, if somethings not working, change it and keep going. You can alter, modify and change your routine whenever you feel you need to.
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